Why Trying To ‘Find Your Purpose’ Won’t Help You Find Your Purpose
Many people are struggling today with ‘meaninglessness’—a pervading sense that their lives lack purpose, that there’s no real reason for them being here other than to work, pay bills, raise children, and enjoy the occasional take away meal, only to pass away at a reasonably old age. (Note that throughout this article, I will use…
Read MoreGoals are Checkpoints, not Destinations
Some thoughts on finding clarity… The new year is fast approaching and so too are the cliched resolutions, new beginnings and habit kickstarters etc. This can be helpful, of course, but only if we approach goals and habits from the right place. My work tells me, time and time again, that what all of us…
Read MoreHeidegger’s “Authenticity”
Over the past few weeks, I’ve noticed that the topic of authenticity has emerged more frequently, so I wanted to write a few lines about what I believe it is, and how to find it. It was the father of existentialism Martin Heidegger who first introduced us to the concept of authenticity in his magnum…
Read MoreThe Two-Step Cure for Loneliness
I’d like to share and unpack a major theme that has arisen from the counselling space over the past month—that of loneliness. Loneliness is, among other things, the contemporary illness—a major pandemic sweeping across the developed world; and studies suggest it is as bad for our health as smoking 15 cigarettes per day. At the…
Read MoreOne Long Dialogue—The Manual for Effective Relationships
“Nietzsche once remarked that marriage is a conversation, a long dialogue. If a person is not ready to engage in such a prolonged dialogue, they are not ready for long-term close relationships. Many long-married couples have long since exhausted all topics of conversation because each spouse has stopped developing their individuality. By focusing on individual…
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Tom Ahern 